We all have moments of weakness. Moments when we feel like we have failed ourselves or others. But failure is all part of life.
This past week, I had one of these moments. After going through a few big life changes, I’ve been having a hard time adjusting to my new routine. With a new apartment and job, among other issues, I’ve been struggling a bit.
Last weekend, I wasn’t feeling well and started to get really down on myself. As any female knows, I was really emotional and craving everything in sight during my time of the month. At this moment, everything hit me at once. All the change and stress came over me and I shut down. I canceled my plans for Friday night, stayed in and wallowed in my sadness. Not to mention I wasn’t feeling well either.
Saturday, I woke up and laid around all morning and most of the afternoon. It wasn’t until my boyfriend gave me a pep talk and helped me feel a little better that I got out of bed and headed outside. Anyone that knows me knows how unlike me it is to stay in bed late and do anything less than productive on the weekends.
I have a really strong personality and I hold myself to really high standards, like many of you, I’m sure. So when we make a wrong choice or “fail,” we completely fall apart.
Don’t be too hard on yourself
We are our own biggest critics. Most of us hold ourselves to an impossible standard. Often times, we don’t account for the fact that we are humans. We are not perfect and no one expects us to be. So why do we give ourselves a hard time when we are any less than perfect?
Moral of the story — Give 👏🏼Yourself 👏🏼A👏🏼Break👏🏼.
Move On
It’s okay to be upset or disappointed when something doesn’t go our way, but we have to accept what happened and move on. It doesn’t benefit you and the others involved to dwell on what happened.
This is obviously easier said than done. The best thing you can do is get outside, get some fresh air, and engage in some self care to help nurse yourself back to your true self.
When I was in this funk last weekend, I felt a million times better after getting out of bed, going for a walk near the lake and hitting the gym. Find an activity that will help you clear your mind. Whether that’s journaling, reading a book or taking a hot bath, do whatever helps you hit your refresh button.
Instead of canceling plans to wallow in your sadness, surround yourself with friends and family to help you feel better. Even just a movie night with your girls will do just fine. Sometimes all you need it a good laugh and a big hug from a loved one!
Tomorrow is a new day
Bottom line — it’s okay to fail! We are human and we are bound to make mistakes every once in a while. Take each of these opportunities as chances to learn and become a stronger person.